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Ooook! ok! I get it now. After watching and observing the news and all this "anger" around the country, I understand that behind this BLM movement there is a political agenda hidden. We can't be naïve not to see it. It is clear. Something is definitely wrong. No this is not about George Floyd's cause. This not protesting. This something else
I want to clarify this:
1/ I am not a political activist. I just like to share my thoughts. I freely think and I like to discuss with people who have the same mindset and are opened to listen and debate
2/ I am an outside viewer. I am curious about what happen politically in the world in general.
3/ I don't ask you to necessarily agree with my statements or my opinion but what I usually ask to my friends is the ability to listen and have a open mind debate. Honesty is important as well
4/ Understand that everything that is said in the media is not always true. As a matter of fact people usually ask for doing the research before jumping into conclusion based on what the media stream say.
When I was young my father used to say "Stop watching TV it will brainwash you and you will learn nothing good" I thought his words were rough. I liked watching TV and you know movies. He liked watching the news but I wonder if he believed everything that was said in it. In my home, TV was a real issue with my dad. We could not watch TV. He would put the TV on just for the news or for the World Cup of Soccer and that was it. WE had to wait that he went on his trips we could negotiate with my mother to have the TV on. My mom was ok with it. She didn't see anything wrong with the TV but she would only remind us that our Dad didn't like TV. Meaning once we watched the specific TV programs that we wanted, we would turn off the TV and go back to our books. My father wanted us to read every time and I didn't like it at all but I didn't know that reading was shaping and building my way to think and analyze things around me.
After having a honest discussion later on with him as I became an adult. I finally asked him why he didn't like TV He responded to me that: "When you watch TV you waste hours of your time that you could be using for yourself and for something more productive. You will be brainwashed for no real facts. If you carefully notice things you will see that you don't learn much with TV. Books are better than TV. On the other hand the people who are making those TV channels, Tv programs, commercials etc are making money on you. They are getting richer and you are getting poorer." was he right?
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The way the word racism is now used nowadays worries me a lot...I don't know what to say anymore. The real issues of racism that some people face is now wiped out.
I want to mention something if President Obama became president of the United States, it s because some White folks voted for him too
If slavery ended it is because I believe that some White folks also stood up to end slavery
just to name a few examples. You will always see some White people involved in our fight as well as some of them believe in a fair and bright future for every races. We must stop this hatred it takes us no where.
When I first heard about BLM I first thought that they were fighting a good fight for Black people but today as I carefully observe the movement and their actions, after Mr. Floyd's death, I saw something didn't add up. Some things to me weren't right anymore but I guess I will try to share my thoughts here on that later.
You know, on my last post, I promised to myself that I will no longer write about social and political issues. I said no more feeding this blog and I will keep this promise to myself. I said I would not be doing it anymore but...But my eyes can still see and my heart can still be moved. I will try to be short as much as I can but I am not sure. I do not need people to agree with me anyway. Obviously my opinion made some of my friends angry already especially when I asked few questions. I will also share those questions here because I personally believe that my Black community is sometimes hypocrite when it comes to talk about racial issues
Sorry if my post will look like repetitive it's because I have a lot to say but at the same time not enough time to sit down, write and edit. It is short now. My baby takes a lot of my time ( smile) the blessing of being a mom. It demands a lot of work to do and I talk about it on my new website I talk about everything even things that people think are taboos. there is so much in my heart and I can't keep what I feel and think anymore. I am not a good writer maybe and that's where it can be difficult to understand me. Also not being an English speaker can be another difficulty...I think.
The title of my post is "O My …The word Racism Again" then I shake my head😔and this makes me keep my position of 2020. No change for me it remains my support for Trump2020. I remember my first year in the American university, we were asked to study the American History I and II. I remember how I would spend hours and hours reading the book of the American History non stop because it was so inspiring. I was touched and moved. I would highlight some parts of the book. Saturday afternoon was my favorite day to read the American History. History was already one of my favorite subjects at school. Reading the American History became such a hobby that when I had to take my tests it was just repeating in my head what I read. Yes, it wasn't easy for a French speaker to understand every words. My History teacher who was herself a researcher and a PHD professor in History, saw my passion and my determination to learn and understand the American History. I would often go to her office ask questions about some parts of the chapters because I was so impressed. She ended up inviting me to her house with three other international students to eat at her place. There, I discovered a special southern meal😏😜 It was delicious! Her house looked like a museum and I loved it. yes It was amazing! America has a great History!
The title of my post is "O My …The word Racism Again" then I shake my head😔and this makes me keep my position of 2020. No change for me it remains my support for Trump2020. I remember my first year in the American university, we were asked to study the American History I and II. I remember how I would spend hours and hours reading the book of the American History non stop because it was so inspiring. I was touched and moved. I would highlight some parts of the book. Saturday afternoon was my favorite day to read the American History. History was already one of my favorite subjects at school. Reading the American History became such a hobby that when I had to take my tests it was just repeating in my head what I read. Yes, it wasn't easy for a French speaker to understand every words. My History teacher who was herself a researcher and a PHD professor in History, saw my passion and my determination to learn and understand the American History. I would often go to her office ask questions about some parts of the chapters because I was so impressed. She ended up inviting me to her house with three other international students to eat at her place. There, I discovered a special southern meal😏😜 It was delicious! Her house looked like a museum and I loved it. yes It was amazing! America has a great History!
About my position, I already wrote about it in my previous post. I keep my right seat. I left the Left since 2016 and no regrets. I #WalkAway and no regrets
If you are smart you cannot be supporting BLM. No! no way. I state it in French now "Quand on est intelligent on ne peut pas supporter ce mouvement appele BLM" I didn't put anything in support of it on my social media account because I was still trying to understand what was going on? Everybody on my friends list where all in BLM mode except very few people like me. Fist up in sign of protesting but protesting what exactly? I told my friends that it doesn't look like protesting. It looks too much violent for a protest. And they responded to me that it was justified...
If you are smart you cannot be supporting BLM. No! no way. I state it in French now "Quand on est intelligent on ne peut pas supporter ce mouvement appele BLM" I didn't put anything in support of it on my social media account because I was still trying to understand what was going on? Everybody on my friends list where all in BLM mode except very few people like me. Fist up in sign of protesting but protesting what exactly? I told my friends that it doesn't look like protesting. It looks too much violent for a protest. And they responded to me that it was justified...
I was confused like confused about their actions really But I guess I was right. At some point, I thought I was the only one thinking what's going on? Something doesn't add up here. I am glad I wasn't the only one who felt that way. It was relieved to see that some political activists were questioning and thinking the same way that I did. I invite you to watch the video below that I share.
Please simply listen to them. I don't ask people to agree right away. I see people are now like angry about everything you can't have a normal conversation with them nowadays. If you don't agree with the majority then you are a problem.
. As for me, I decided to #walkaway from the Left and my eyes have been opened. The Left isn't doing good to the Black people community. No, not at all. If you believe it, then you are wrong yes, you are naïve! Open your eyes! I got so many debates with friends on that subject. They maybe do not agree with me because they don't see what is under their eyes. WE are like programmed to hate each others. Some political parties use the Racial thing to divide us. They create some narratives to make you feel rejected, oppressed when it is not really true. You know the victim card and the race card... You have to be reading and see carefully everything the Left does. Another thing I want to mention: The Black community in general (My personal view and opinion on reasons that I saw so far) my people, hate some questions.
Please simply listen to them. I don't ask people to agree right away. I see people are now like angry about everything you can't have a normal conversation with them nowadays. If you don't agree with the majority then you are a problem.
. As for me, I decided to #walkaway from the Left and my eyes have been opened. The Left isn't doing good to the Black people community. No, not at all. If you believe it, then you are wrong yes, you are naïve! Open your eyes! I got so many debates with friends on that subject. They maybe do not agree with me because they don't see what is under their eyes. WE are like programmed to hate each others. Some political parties use the Racial thing to divide us. They create some narratives to make you feel rejected, oppressed when it is not really true. You know the victim card and the race card... You have to be reading and see carefully everything the Left does. Another thing I want to mention: The Black community in general (My personal view and opinion on reasons that I saw so far) my people, hate some questions.
They hate when you refuse to think like the group. I swear we are hypocrites! I am tired of this hypocrisy. We need to change! I refuse to have my brain washed. The news have no more influence on me. The emotion doesn't have influence on me anymore. You can be a large group of people walking for a "cause" If I am not convinced I will not follow you at all. The media can make you like a person that doesn't deserve any of our attention or support. I am free to like whoever I want to. Some friends were mad at me when I express my support for Trump2020. It was like I was a devil...My God! Where is the freedom of choice? Freedom of speech? I was even cussed just because of my choice. We must always think first before getting into emotion. I have enough and I had enough. I love my people but we need to change for real and I will explain later why I say that in the following lines. I am convinced that even if the majority think a certain way it doesn't mean that they are necessarily right. When I watched that man in this video below, I felt and I saw the light. What he says makes 100%sense
Yes we need to address certain issues and be honest about that. I believe racism exists but the way people are using this word today scares me. Sometimes everything isn't about racism. Sometimes you will meet ignorant people. Sometimes you can meet a racist but nowadays people are really careful. I believe that people are not born racist. Racism is taught. I truly believe it. I think it is not fair to make people feel uncomfortable to be in a race that God Himself created. If your are White be comfortable in your skin, if you are Black do the same thing. We need all the colors and all the races to make this world. What we Black people really want and need, is Respect. I think we can't force people to love us but we must make them respecting us.
How do we gain that respect? Sometimes I feel sorry for some of my White friends because it seems like they can't voice their opinion . They can't talk and open their heart to voice their honest opinion anymore otherwise they are called racist right away for no reasons. Today any White who just want to say something a little bit of truth is called racist. why?
Personally, I want some opportunities like any other people any other race let's say it like that. But I don't need people to feel pity for me or feel like they have to give me a promotion or a special treatment because I am Black. I want it to be fair and real. If you hire me then you hire me because I have what you need. If you promote me it's because I have all the qualities and the skills that you need. We must also admit that there are Black people who are racist too right? But it seems like it is ok. That's fine? wow...ok.
How do we gain that respect? Sometimes I feel sorry for some of my White friends because it seems like they can't voice their opinion . They can't talk and open their heart to voice their honest opinion anymore otherwise they are called racist right away for no reasons. Today any White who just want to say something a little bit of truth is called racist. why?
Personally, I want some opportunities like any other people any other race let's say it like that. But I don't need people to feel pity for me or feel like they have to give me a promotion or a special treatment because I am Black. I want it to be fair and real. If you hire me then you hire me because I have what you need. If you promote me it's because I have all the qualities and the skills that you need. We must also admit that there are Black people who are racist too right? But it seems like it is ok. That's fine? wow...ok.
There was an actor Who said something on an interview that moved me. I think it was either Denzel Washington or Morgan Freeman... I don't remember. But when the host asked him about his thoughts on racism the actor responded: "..Don't talk about it!" It was like saying if we keep feeding people with the idea of racism of course it will be a reality to them. People will probably get racism if they constantly hear about it everyday. You attract what you believe right? My whole point here is, we have to stop always thinking things like "There is White Privilege" for example. I don't believe 100% in that so called "White Privilege" because I saw many White folks working so hard. They were up early morning taking the buses and metro to go to work. They work hard like any other people. If we could stop complaining and look around and use common sense. If we could be trying to work together it would maybe make this world a better place.
Last time I was talking to my friend and she was complaining about opportunities in movies, fashion to Black people then, I responded to her by saying if people don't like us why don't we create our own stuffs? Our brands? Movies? food? school I don't know (Example: India makes their own movies every year.) I mean let's attract respect. Take your destiny between your hands and Stop complaining. Stop expecting that others must love us because we are Black. No, they will never do and maybe they don't have to but They Must RESPECT US. So let's start loving OURSELVES first.
We Blacks are hypocrites in the sense that even in our own beauty requirements or criteria, We always tend to favor light and fair skin. I mean features that tend to get close to the Caucasian people. Why? Why can't we be saying the dark skin is beautiful? The present nose ( that some people call big) is beautiful. Who said that thin nose was the most beautiful nose? Who made that rule? No, we always think that the light skin is more beautiful than the dark one. We personally ( I include myself) spend more on hair extensions that look like White women's hair ( But that doesn't apply to me because I am not protesting on racism. I like every races that God made That's the difference) You complain about racism you Black people but many change their skin tone to look white. How about that? I watched "Black in America of Soledad O'Brien" I have learned a lot from that show.
Clearly the light skin has more success in our own community so stop pointing the finger to the other races judging and calling them racist. Let's start loving each other. Respecting the Black women. Some African Americans or Black Americans don't like Black Africans. They have their philosophy of Africa like it is a big jungle where we are walking naked (yes it is true in retired places or villages but not in capital cities come-on! stop being ignorant!). I met some Black Americans who don't like Africans and vice versa. But they call themselves African-Americans. You don't see many Black celebrities taking their vacations to discover Africa. They go straight to Europe, the islands or Asia where they spend their millions of dollars that could help the development of the African continent their "Motherland" yet they complain about racism. What a contradiction! A mother land they use when they lack inspiration to make their movies or music. And we want White people to love us like some kids who want their mom's attention. There is something that I don't understand about our attitude. When a White person does something wrong to a Black person, you will hear the complete noise and anger everywhere in the world. I don't accept the fact that a White man hurts a Black man but I wish to see the same energy and anger when Black people were mistreated in China by Chinese people and in Arabic countries where Black maids were tortured by their Arab employers. Why people didn't walk in the world to protest about such things??? It was horrible to watch their treatment. Same thing for the Black slaves in Libya. How horrible it was to watch such videos but the Black community in the world was almost quiet. We are so hypocrites!! We don't need to be loved by other races, we need RESPECT.
Sometimes you see some videos clips of Black rappers. You see how Black women are shown or portrayed in some music videos. They shake their bottom in a way. They dress in a certain way like really sexually explicit you wonder what's going on with the Black woman image? That's how Black women are represented? Then they show the cash money falling on the floor, twerking etc. If we want to talk sex ok? Let's talk about it But let's do it in a fine and classy way... I don't have time for racism to be honest. By the way the only times I was really victim of racism wasn't from White people but from an Indian family from India where I was renting an apartment. If I personally meet a racist person, I will understand the level of ignorance that person has period. To me nobody is born racist. People BECOME racist by what they ear around them.
I always remember the first day I put my feet in the U.S at NYC in the very cold weather and we didn't know the weather would be like that when we get out of the plane from a warm country. People in NYC were just asking us "Are you Ok?" from far away in their car but nothing to help. But a White woman. Yes a White woman police officer saved my life! She had blonde hair in a ponytail I always remember that lady. It was late at night she was first hesitant to get close to us (3 of us) but when she heard our accent she knew we were international students. She put us in her police car that was so warm and comfortable. It was very late at night almost 12 am She did everything to find us a safe taxi driver to take us to our English host family. Yes I never had issues with the police only once at the international airport of Dallas Fort Worth where I met an ignorant White police officer who didn't know what a Visa meant and what an immunizations card was used for. Yes you happen to meet people like that but it doesn't mean that all the White police officers are racist. As a matter of fact we have many videos of White police officers who saved Black babies' lives.
But things became too much in the country and I don't think that what is happening is normal. You can't be burning cities and your own brothers' businesses. I share some videos that educated me and I think about sharing them here
I keep my position for 2020 anyway. (in my previous post My Choice for Donald Trump)
I dislike when people are not honest when we debate. My questions were the following:
Black people are killing each other why aren't we Angry? (Why celebrities do not talk about that aspect as well? They should often talk about it because it is real rather than feeding us with anger against White people) It seems like it is more common than the death caused by the police brutality. The numbers are there. Just go and check the numbers. We must be angry and upset about it because that's actually one of the main causes that hurt the black community. Why are we hypocrites?
Us in Africa when we deal with dictators who give us no right to express our freedom of speech but when we leave our countries we go open our big mouth over other issues that happen in other countries but we are afraid to talk about what is happening in our own countries. Our own countries in Africa where your rights become a favor that you beg. We are out there walking around the world for BLM. How hypocrites we are!
(By the way talking about the police. I don't understand why people want to Defund the police? We need the police no matter what! I remember few years ago I made a video about my thoughts on a quote from a French philosopher named Jean Jacques Rousseau. the quote says that:" men are good by nature but corrupted by society." I shared my side of my opinion regarding that quote by saying that if the laws are written everywhere in town, in airports etc it's because the law maybe assumes that Men are not good by nature. The law needs to remind us the rules in order to live in a safe environment. Sometimes the written rules cannot help and you need to enforce these laws. for that reason I am ok to have the police to protect our communities.
We are happy when the police comes to our rescue after calling 911. When they come to help in a case of domestic violence, pregnancy delivery, robbery the police officers put their lives in the front row to save ours. I am thankful for the police. I had no bad experiences with the police. When I see the police somewhere I feel safe unless I know I did something wrong which hasn't happened. I am from a country where the police has no power so when you are in trouble or when you are in a very bad situations you wonder if the police will really help you. So you count on yourself first. I don't say that the police in America is perfect but at least they usually do their job. When I was visiting a friend in Texas she had a dog and whenever her dog was making mistakes or bad stuffs we would tell her "Stop! Or I call te police!" the dog stopped and run away lol!! Funny but it tells a lot for me. Even in the spiritual realm you understand the meaning of the police.
Being victim or seeing racism is a state of mind. You attract what you believe: I remember a friend who was seeing racism everywhere in our English school. I could not see it personally or maybe my mind wasn't into that issue of racism at all. She became toxic complaining about being victim of racism every time. I didn't maybe care much about racism or I don't know but I started seeing racism only after when she started complaining everyday about it. When she was talking about it everyday I started withdrawing myself from some classmates who were White and the teachers as well. I started seeing them in a different way. I didn't trust them anymore I even ended up rejecting a nice girl from Spain who was so nice to me because of that friend who was seeing racism everywhere. I started having stress in my mind to go take the metro because I thought many racists were in town. Something that I didn't see when I first came and went to school. She was like "Can't you see that teacher is racist? Can't you see these two students are racists? O! yes they are all racists!" I couldn't see it personally. I was very comfortable in my class. But after listening religiously to her words, My thoughts were now invaded by her toxic attitude. Later on, I realized that I started being aware of racism in my school only after my so called friend complained about it everyday. One day she told me she would complain about a teacher who according to her was a racist. I asked nicely if she wasn't going too far because accusing someone of racism is a very serious case. I asked her to tell me exactly what she saw in the teacher's behavior that made her feel like she was racist? She told me the way the teacher was teaching in the classroom. That wasn't enough reasons to me then I asked her what exactly made her be a racist? My friend couldn't tell me exactly the reasons but she was just convinced that her teacher was racist. That day I was shocked and I told her do not go to complain to the head of the school because you can make that teacher in trouble for nothing. She went anyway. She went to complain about the teacher who was talking in a way and sitting in a way that didn't face her. The same day in the school the principal called for an urgent meeting of all the staffs and teachers of the school. I remember that some teachers were not feeling comfortable they didn't know how to act and teach in their classrooms anymore. Later on, when I got more and more closed to my friend I realized that she was a person who liked attention. She was an attention seeker. She was hurt in herself she wasn't feeling good about herself. She would be complaining about everything and even making up stories on people. You have to understand that sometimes people project their pain on other people.
Clearly the light skin has more success in our own community so stop pointing the finger to the other races judging and calling them racist. Let's start loving each other. Respecting the Black women. Some African Americans or Black Americans don't like Black Africans. They have their philosophy of Africa like it is a big jungle where we are walking naked (yes it is true in retired places or villages but not in capital cities come-on! stop being ignorant!). I met some Black Americans who don't like Africans and vice versa. But they call themselves African-Americans. You don't see many Black celebrities taking their vacations to discover Africa. They go straight to Europe, the islands or Asia where they spend their millions of dollars that could help the development of the African continent their "Motherland" yet they complain about racism. What a contradiction! A mother land they use when they lack inspiration to make their movies or music. And we want White people to love us like some kids who want their mom's attention. There is something that I don't understand about our attitude. When a White person does something wrong to a Black person, you will hear the complete noise and anger everywhere in the world. I don't accept the fact that a White man hurts a Black man but I wish to see the same energy and anger when Black people were mistreated in China by Chinese people and in Arabic countries where Black maids were tortured by their Arab employers. Why people didn't walk in the world to protest about such things??? It was horrible to watch their treatment. Same thing for the Black slaves in Libya. How horrible it was to watch such videos but the Black community in the world was almost quiet. We are so hypocrites!! We don't need to be loved by other races, we need RESPECT.
Sometimes you see some videos clips of Black rappers. You see how Black women are shown or portrayed in some music videos. They shake their bottom in a way. They dress in a certain way like really sexually explicit you wonder what's going on with the Black woman image? That's how Black women are represented? Then they show the cash money falling on the floor, twerking etc. If we want to talk sex ok? Let's talk about it But let's do it in a fine and classy way... I don't have time for racism to be honest. By the way the only times I was really victim of racism wasn't from White people but from an Indian family from India where I was renting an apartment. If I personally meet a racist person, I will understand the level of ignorance that person has period. To me nobody is born racist. People BECOME racist by what they ear around them.
I always remember the first day I put my feet in the U.S at NYC in the very cold weather and we didn't know the weather would be like that when we get out of the plane from a warm country. People in NYC were just asking us "Are you Ok?" from far away in their car but nothing to help. But a White woman. Yes a White woman police officer saved my life! She had blonde hair in a ponytail I always remember that lady. It was late at night she was first hesitant to get close to us (3 of us) but when she heard our accent she knew we were international students. She put us in her police car that was so warm and comfortable. It was very late at night almost 12 am She did everything to find us a safe taxi driver to take us to our English host family. Yes I never had issues with the police only once at the international airport of Dallas Fort Worth where I met an ignorant White police officer who didn't know what a Visa meant and what an immunizations card was used for. Yes you happen to meet people like that but it doesn't mean that all the White police officers are racist. As a matter of fact we have many videos of White police officers who saved Black babies' lives.
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The video of the crime of George Floyd traumatized me once again. I have to admit it. I was shocked by the way police handled and killed him. The way they did it was wrong! I thought the anger in the country was justified at a level. It was wrong 100%. They could have avoided his death maybe. That causes anger. Especially about the police brutality that we can't forget. But my anger went further more than that because I started asking many questions. The same questions I asked to my friends when we debated I will write them below. Then after watching what happened to him, the country was on fire because people had enough of it.But things became too much in the country and I don't think that what is happening is normal. You can't be burning cities and your own brothers' businesses. I share some videos that educated me and I think about sharing them here
I dislike when people are not honest when we debate. My questions were the following:
Black people are killing each other why aren't we Angry? (Why celebrities do not talk about that aspect as well? They should often talk about it because it is real rather than feeding us with anger against White people) It seems like it is more common than the death caused by the police brutality. The numbers are there. Just go and check the numbers. We must be angry and upset about it because that's actually one of the main causes that hurt the black community. Why are we hypocrites?
Us in Africa when we deal with dictators who give us no right to express our freedom of speech but when we leave our countries we go open our big mouth over other issues that happen in other countries but we are afraid to talk about what is happening in our own countries. Our own countries in Africa where your rights become a favor that you beg. We are out there walking around the world for BLM. How hypocrites we are!
(By the way talking about the police. I don't understand why people want to Defund the police? We need the police no matter what! I remember few years ago I made a video about my thoughts on a quote from a French philosopher named Jean Jacques Rousseau. the quote says that:" men are good by nature but corrupted by society." I shared my side of my opinion regarding that quote by saying that if the laws are written everywhere in town, in airports etc it's because the law maybe assumes that Men are not good by nature. The law needs to remind us the rules in order to live in a safe environment. Sometimes the written rules cannot help and you need to enforce these laws. for that reason I am ok to have the police to protect our communities.
We are happy when the police comes to our rescue after calling 911. When they come to help in a case of domestic violence, pregnancy delivery, robbery the police officers put their lives in the front row to save ours. I am thankful for the police. I had no bad experiences with the police. When I see the police somewhere I feel safe unless I know I did something wrong which hasn't happened. I am from a country where the police has no power so when you are in trouble or when you are in a very bad situations you wonder if the police will really help you. So you count on yourself first. I don't say that the police in America is perfect but at least they usually do their job. When I was visiting a friend in Texas she had a dog and whenever her dog was making mistakes or bad stuffs we would tell her "Stop! Or I call te police!" the dog stopped and run away lol!! Funny but it tells a lot for me. Even in the spiritual realm you understand the meaning of the police.
Being victim or seeing racism is a state of mind. You attract what you believe: I remember a friend who was seeing racism everywhere in our English school. I could not see it personally or maybe my mind wasn't into that issue of racism at all. She became toxic complaining about being victim of racism every time. I didn't maybe care much about racism or I don't know but I started seeing racism only after when she started complaining everyday about it. When she was talking about it everyday I started withdrawing myself from some classmates who were White and the teachers as well. I started seeing them in a different way. I didn't trust them anymore I even ended up rejecting a nice girl from Spain who was so nice to me because of that friend who was seeing racism everywhere. I started having stress in my mind to go take the metro because I thought many racists were in town. Something that I didn't see when I first came and went to school. She was like "Can't you see that teacher is racist? Can't you see these two students are racists? O! yes they are all racists!" I couldn't see it personally. I was very comfortable in my class. But after listening religiously to her words, My thoughts were now invaded by her toxic attitude. Later on, I realized that I started being aware of racism in my school only after my so called friend complained about it everyday. One day she told me she would complain about a teacher who according to her was a racist. I asked nicely if she wasn't going too far because accusing someone of racism is a very serious case. I asked her to tell me exactly what she saw in the teacher's behavior that made her feel like she was racist? She told me the way the teacher was teaching in the classroom. That wasn't enough reasons to me then I asked her what exactly made her be a racist? My friend couldn't tell me exactly the reasons but she was just convinced that her teacher was racist. That day I was shocked and I told her do not go to complain to the head of the school because you can make that teacher in trouble for nothing. She went anyway. She went to complain about the teacher who was talking in a way and sitting in a way that didn't face her. The same day in the school the principal called for an urgent meeting of all the staffs and teachers of the school. I remember that some teachers were not feeling comfortable they didn't know how to act and teach in their classrooms anymore. Later on, when I got more and more closed to my friend I realized that she was a person who liked attention. She was an attention seeker. She was hurt in herself she wasn't feeling good about herself. She would be complaining about everything and even making up stories on people. You have to understand that sometimes people project their pain on other people.
We ended up splitting at some point because that friendship became toxic and I lost many good people because of her.
My only real experiences of racism happened few times and I can tell how the persons who were racist were actually ignorant people or of bad faith. And by the way I met many White people who were nice to me in America. As a matter of fact a White woman that I once met at the mall of my town who approached me and learned that I was an international student at the time I met her, gave me 100$ just like that because she was so touched and moved to see that some young people like me were living far from their families. As we were about to leave she nicely and humbly held my hand she slide something and she left . When I opened my hand it was 100$ and I was speechless. I do not respond to racism with anger it is a waste time. I actually try to act i a way that you learn from me being a human.
"I am not gonna spend my life living in a color" (MJ "Black or White" song)
2/ If Black Lives matter, Black people's lives should matter anywhere and everywhere no matter who is doing wrong to the Black life. It can be a White or a Black person hurting a Black life so let's be honest why do you get so angry ONLY when it is about the police or the White person and not when a Black person is killing his own brother? It is even worse to me! If my brother kills my other brother this is a serious betrayal.
3/ How many Africans or Black designers' clothes do you own in your closet?
4/ How many Black owners' brands do you buy or consume?
5/ There were some Africans caught and enslaved in Libya and I think it is still happening. How many Black in America got angry about that knowing the history of Slavery and discussed about it in social media? Celebrities why were they so Quiet about it? Yet, it went quiet. Few people walked to protest about it in France. but when it comes to BLM I see everybody outside. You are so hypocrites! But how many afro descendants of slaves got really upset about it? Almost not many. What a contradiction?
If we want to be loved by others we should love each other FIRST and change the way we treat each other. You want respect? Let's show respect with each other. I know some Black Americans who don't like African people at all but we are Black lives right?
6/ I had a discussion about a female African hero that many Africans like as a warrior and a saviour of her people. As I was doing my researches I found out something...not so good about her. I found out that she was actually selling other tribes to the Europeans as slaves. When I questioned that aspect of her on my videos some people were like not happy that I even asked it? I understood that there are some things that you cannot point out. It is what it is. I shared some sources and it was like I did something very wrong.
No body is perfect. She was maybe perfect for her people at the time, but to the tribes close to her territory she did bad.
Ok! I think this time I am done with all that. If people don't like what I said then well it's up to them. As for me I invite you to my website; We talk about love and sex, Food and fashion ok?
8/ Some of my friends who are promoting the BLM anger in their social media accounts who are Africans living in America really disappoint me bc they are fake. you have real issues in Africa that you need to talk about . you play the ostrich hiding your head in the ground. So I asked them why did you leave your country if you are here complaining about stuffs that you don't really understand. You left Africa because of dictatorship. Because of the system that doesn't help us to thrive. Many of us living in the White people's countries why? why many are dying in the Mediterranean sea to go to Europe since racism is the real issue? so why we don't stay home? let's be honest.
"I am not gonna spend my life living in a color" (MJ "Black or White" song)
3/ How many Africans or Black designers' clothes do you own in your closet?
4/ How many Black owners' brands do you buy or consume?
5/ There were some Africans caught and enslaved in Libya and I think it is still happening. How many Black in America got angry about that knowing the history of Slavery and discussed about it in social media? Celebrities why were they so Quiet about it? Yet, it went quiet. Few people walked to protest about it in France. but when it comes to BLM I see everybody outside. You are so hypocrites! But how many afro descendants of slaves got really upset about it? Almost not many. What a contradiction?
If we want to be loved by others we should love each other FIRST and change the way we treat each other. You want respect? Let's show respect with each other. I know some Black Americans who don't like African people at all but we are Black lives right?
6/ I had a discussion about a female African hero that many Africans like as a warrior and a saviour of her people. As I was doing my researches I found out something...not so good about her. I found out that she was actually selling other tribes to the Europeans as slaves. When I questioned that aspect of her on my videos some people were like not happy that I even asked it? I understood that there are some things that you cannot point out. It is what it is. I shared some sources and it was like I did something very wrong.
No body is perfect. She was maybe perfect for her people at the time, but to the tribes close to her territory she did bad.
7/ Sometimes in our Black community there are some topics that people don't want you to address:
Why do you change your skin color? Why do you buy so much expensive extensions to look like a White woman? Why do you spend so much money on buying White people's brands like Chanel, Prada, Louis Vuitton, yu name it and you can't spend like that for a Black designer? Why aren't we honest about the fact that Black women are looking more and more like White women and those Black women get angry about racism too. Like really? come on! Let's be real. We are the only race who spend so much money on weaves and even put strong glue on their head etc to look more like white women and we promote it proudly. To me I am simple it doesn't apply to me because I don't complain about racism so I can wear my weaves as much as I want to and I don't care but you ladies who get angry about racism please keep your hair afro and buy only Black designers brands ok? You men do the same . Do not wear White men's brands since you say they are bad and racists. Forget about Chanel Louis Vuitton. Givenchy, Dior... They belong to the White designers right? As for me I will buy them because I am not angry about races. I like every races. I will promote No anger of racial stuffs in my social media accounts. No more!
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You want a better world then try to love each other and respect each other within our own communities first. At some point like I told my cousin during our discussion about racism: I think the other races who are not Black are now wondering what's wrong with the Black people? When we want to help them, they get angry. when we do not want to help they get angry too. What's wrong now? What can we do to appease their anger? Something is difficult to discuss because there is a lack of honesty.
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Few weeks ago I saw a video and it was asked to some universities students in America who was the best presidents of the U.S? and they put some well known figures such as Hitler, Stalin etc. Is it too much to ask to go read or even google who were the characters and what they did? This is something that we learn in High school come on people! You cannot say nonsense like Donald Trump is worst than Hitler. We are better than that. Some students said that Donald Trump was a dictator and comparable to Hitler. I was like... wow! Ok! Do they know what dictatorship really is? Have they lived in a dictatorial countries? What an insult for people like me who know what it means. Can we talk about dictatorship a little bit? Maybe they are too spoiled and they DO NOT understand what Dictatorship is. I hope I will have a post on it but even that I have to be sure that I am not going to get in trouble because guess what? there is no freedom of speech in such countries. (ok...Yes... there is no real freedom of speech everywhere in the world but in some countries it is worse) Up to now I see how they criticize Trump and that's fine. You can make fun of him without risking to go to jail right? Can you do that in dictatorial countries? Nobody forbid them because they live in a country where there is a kinda freedom of speech.
Comparing Donald Trump to Hitler shows me the height of ignorance. But it is even worse when you have university students thinking like that. Wow! I was speechless.
When a a Black student says he likes Barack Obama because he is Black this is not racism?
But if a White student came out for example and said something like: "I like Donald Trump because he is White" that statement will automatically be called racism. Ok! People can we be fair in this use of the word racism now?
Few days ago I watched a Black philosopher saying a statement that I found interesting. He said "White guilt is Black power" that's something that I have been trying to say but I could not find the words. At some point we the Black people must be honest with ourselves.
Racism is real but the denunciation of the word racism that I see today around the world gives me goose bumps. I don't understand what it is and what's going on? I am confused about their actions: Burning cities, Black owners 'shops even killing other Black folks like... I am really confused now.
After George Floyd's tragic death, I received some videos of what Happened and I was shocked by the way the police officer acted. That was wrong and I say it again! I don't think it was necessary to do what he did. The man was already restrained so the rest was not necessary at all i think. As the videos was shown everywhere I had a friend sending me the video and telling me "Yes that's Donald Trump's country!!" He texted it to me with anger. Then I was like "So you mean that under Obama the first Black president, police brutality never happened?"
Then of course my friend could not go forward He could not reply because he understood that what he said was not right. It was viral everywhere in the world. I saw the anger of the people. Then I started thinking...some questions came up in my mind. Then I asked those questions to my friends who were angry:
When our brothers Black are killing each other in cities and neighborhood, why are we NOT that Angry because if Black lives matter it should matters in every circumstances and everywhere.
Why American celebrities are quiet about it? They never address that issues in the social media accounts.
They know what it is. What really surprised me is all the protest around the world about what happened. Why was I surprised? because I think they didn't do their research they just go with the flood they understand nothing just emotion.
Who was the man killed? What really happened that day?
2/ How many Black people are seriously dying from police brutality? Let's be honest. Is it a very often situation or it happens sometimes then the media uses it for their own agenda?
3/ Why celebrities suddenly talk about advertising Black owners businesses when they barely do that in the year? They did it just after Mr. Floyd's death. Then suddenly nothing anymore. The same celebrities barely promote Black businesses outfits, products and so on. U only see them wearing Givenchy, Dior Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Brands that belong to White people.
Then I asked my friends since you like to say the world is racist. I need to know how many of you have Black business products in your own closets and your houses. If you have Chanel Dior Louis Vuitton that are obviously for White people and expensive Can you throw those items away in the trash? because it will make sense to me if you do it. Answer from them: silence.
4/ Can we talk about the lack of father figure in Black families in America? Because in Africa we know the meaning to have the father in the houses. I am myself an example of that . I was raised with a strong father figure. My father could be far in a country away for months but his authority was still present because we knew what having a father meant.
we couldn't do bad stuffs outside because he would correct you seriously.
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You want a better world then try to love each other and respect each other within our own communities first. At some point like I told my cousin during our discussion about racism: I think the other races who are not Black are now wondering what's wrong with the Black people? When we want to help them, they get angry. when we do not want to help they get angry too. What's wrong now? What can we do to appease their anger? Something is difficult to discuss because there is a lack of honesty.
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Few weeks ago I saw a video and it was asked to some universities students in America who was the best presidents of the U.S? and they put some well known figures such as Hitler, Stalin etc. Is it too much to ask to go read or even google who were the characters and what they did? This is something that we learn in High school come on people! You cannot say nonsense like Donald Trump is worst than Hitler. We are better than that. Some students said that Donald Trump was a dictator and comparable to Hitler. I was like... wow! Ok! Do they know what dictatorship really is? Have they lived in a dictatorial countries? What an insult for people like me who know what it means. Can we talk about dictatorship a little bit? Maybe they are too spoiled and they DO NOT understand what Dictatorship is. I hope I will have a post on it but even that I have to be sure that I am not going to get in trouble because guess what? there is no freedom of speech in such countries. (ok...Yes... there is no real freedom of speech everywhere in the world but in some countries it is worse) Up to now I see how they criticize Trump and that's fine. You can make fun of him without risking to go to jail right? Can you do that in dictatorial countries? Nobody forbid them because they live in a country where there is a kinda freedom of speech.
Comparing Donald Trump to Hitler shows me the height of ignorance. But it is even worse when you have university students thinking like that. Wow! I was speechless.
When a a Black student says he likes Barack Obama because he is Black this is not racism?
But if a White student came out for example and said something like: "I like Donald Trump because he is White" that statement will automatically be called racism. Ok! People can we be fair in this use of the word racism now?
Racism is real but the denunciation of the word racism that I see today around the world gives me goose bumps. I don't understand what it is and what's going on? I am confused about their actions: Burning cities, Black owners 'shops even killing other Black folks like... I am really confused now.
After George Floyd's tragic death, I received some videos of what Happened and I was shocked by the way the police officer acted. That was wrong and I say it again! I don't think it was necessary to do what he did. The man was already restrained so the rest was not necessary at all i think. As the videos was shown everywhere I had a friend sending me the video and telling me "Yes that's Donald Trump's country!!" He texted it to me with anger. Then I was like "So you mean that under Obama the first Black president, police brutality never happened?"
Then of course my friend could not go forward He could not reply because he understood that what he said was not right. It was viral everywhere in the world. I saw the anger of the people. Then I started thinking...some questions came up in my mind. Then I asked those questions to my friends who were angry:
When our brothers Black are killing each other in cities and neighborhood, why are we NOT that Angry because if Black lives matter it should matters in every circumstances and everywhere.
Why American celebrities are quiet about it? They never address that issues in the social media accounts.
They know what it is. What really surprised me is all the protest around the world about what happened. Why was I surprised? because I think they didn't do their research they just go with the flood they understand nothing just emotion.
Who was the man killed? What really happened that day?
2/ How many Black people are seriously dying from police brutality? Let's be honest. Is it a very often situation or it happens sometimes then the media uses it for their own agenda?
3/ Why celebrities suddenly talk about advertising Black owners businesses when they barely do that in the year? They did it just after Mr. Floyd's death. Then suddenly nothing anymore. The same celebrities barely promote Black businesses outfits, products and so on. U only see them wearing Givenchy, Dior Louis Vuitton, Chanel, Brands that belong to White people.
Then I asked my friends since you like to say the world is racist. I need to know how many of you have Black business products in your own closets and your houses. If you have Chanel Dior Louis Vuitton that are obviously for White people and expensive Can you throw those items away in the trash? because it will make sense to me if you do it. Answer from them: silence.
4/ Can we talk about the lack of father figure in Black families in America? Because in Africa we know the meaning to have the father in the houses. I am myself an example of that . I was raised with a strong father figure. My father could be far in a country away for months but his authority was still present because we knew what having a father meant.
we couldn't do bad stuffs outside because he would correct you seriously.
5/ Can we stop complaining and take responsibility for our destiny? Ok we were Kings and Queens in African history but that was in the past. the question is the Now. What is happening now? If you are a Lion or a King you don't need to claim it everywhere. When lion roars, all the animals know this is the Lion coming. We better run away.
We the Black are always the only race complaining and complaining for everythimg that happened to us. I know there are some barriers but how can we explain that in the old days our great great grand parents were still doing amazing things comparing to the new generation now who inheriting of their hard work but always complaining. it is The victim spirit.
By the time we are complaining the others are creating thinking.
6/ Can we force people to Love us!? no. Simple example about Chinese. People didn't like China because of some reasons ( I won't put it here this is another subject) But I remember how people portrayed them in the past but Chinese people never complained. They worked hard and today they are a powerful country and they are respected. I believe we are looking for respect and not love but respect! if we want respect we need to act in the way to be respected! not burning cities and complaining everytime but working together. I remember something that my grand father used to say when his children were coming to complain about difficulties and situations in their lives. He used to say :But now that you know what is not working in your life. why don't you stand up? You understand that there are things that are beyond your control. Why sitting here and complaining. Stand up and fight, Stop complaining stand up and fight"
7/ Can we talk about abortion which is also an important issue for the Black community?
I had an exchange with someone online when we talked about slavery. And slavery I believe is the main reason of all that. However Black people tend to forget that Europeans weren't the only ones
who enslaved Black people. I think it is about time that we Black, we need to talk and be honest with one another. What really is the main cause of Black people death in America? we need to know exactly what it is. My point here is let's start to change some habits. I sometimes read women saying they are strong female and independent female without a man...some stuffs that make me think and think but anyway that's life.
By the time we are complaining the others are creating thinking.
6/ Can we force people to Love us!? no. Simple example about Chinese. People didn't like China because of some reasons ( I won't put it here this is another subject) But I remember how people portrayed them in the past but Chinese people never complained. They worked hard and today they are a powerful country and they are respected. I believe we are looking for respect and not love but respect! if we want respect we need to act in the way to be respected! not burning cities and complaining everytime but working together. I remember something that my grand father used to say when his children were coming to complain about difficulties and situations in their lives. He used to say :But now that you know what is not working in your life. why don't you stand up? You understand that there are things that are beyond your control. Why sitting here and complaining. Stand up and fight, Stop complaining stand up and fight"
7/ Can we talk about abortion which is also an important issue for the Black community?
I had an exchange with someone online when we talked about slavery. And slavery I believe is the main reason of all that. However Black people tend to forget that Europeans weren't the only ones
who enslaved Black people. I think it is about time that we Black, we need to talk and be honest with one another. What really is the main cause of Black people death in America? we need to know exactly what it is. My point here is let's start to change some habits. I sometimes read women saying they are strong female and independent female without a man...some stuffs that make me think and think but anyway that's life.
Ok! I think this time I am done with all that. If people don't like what I said then well it's up to them. As for me I invite you to my website; We talk about love and sex, Food and fashion ok?
8/ Some of my friends who are promoting the BLM anger in their social media accounts who are Africans living in America really disappoint me bc they are fake. you have real issues in Africa that you need to talk about . you play the ostrich hiding your head in the ground. So I asked them why did you leave your country if you are here complaining about stuffs that you don't really understand. You left Africa because of dictatorship. Because of the system that doesn't help us to thrive. Many of us living in the White people's countries why? why many are dying in the Mediterranean sea to go to Europe since racism is the real issue? so why we don't stay home? let's be honest.
This is the end of my Blog. I couldn't do what I wanted to do for the farewell because what is happening now upset me. But also I have no more time and inspiration for it. On that note I want to close this post with this song and my link where you can visit me now is here www.poshenvogue.com
my website is a total different world to me (smile) Posh en Vogue has a lot to share with times. I am still working on it.
Bye! Pata'colorCarnet I love you! You have been an important part of my life. An important part of my journey on this earth. I shared my good and my bad moments . You saw your first day in Salt Lake City, Utah where my thoughts were to first share my culture and my country but also do my tributes to my favorite artists. Then it became my little platform where I shared my thoughts about anything. I talked about living single being single (which I am no longer now) I am now a mother...woo woo!! so many good things happened and difficult too. Bye to you all. Thank you for reading me.
