Remembering the 90's!

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Yes, this post is about a little bit of the 90's. I don't know but I have so much to share on that one.
 Can I start with this introduction? Do you remember that song? I know that was many years ago but still good right? Well, in fact, that song inspired me to write this post.

I don't know when the song was released I am not sure I was born already maybe yes...but the only thing I remember is the fact that I found that song in an old audio cassette. At that time we didn't have Compact Discs  we were just using the Walkman or simply an audio cassette player. That cool it was. I remember that I was maybe around 11 or 12 years old at the time and living at a girls' dormitory where everything was kind of forbidden and strict to us.( It was kind of strict religious and cultural system.) So listening to that type of music ...was not tolerated. As we were walking with a classmate out of school I found an old cassette on the floor. Somebody lost it or simply didn't want it anymore. I picked it up and told to my friend: "Look! We have music here!" She told me :"That is too damaged you will do nothing with it. Beside you are not even sure if you will like the music."
Then, I thought to myself I don't care at least I will not be bored in the dorm. I tried to find a way to save the old cassette with a pen and bobby pin to repair it. The cassette looked a little bit better and it even played well in my Walkman. Surprisingly most of the songs were good  and that was when I discover that song. I didn't know the group until many years later. Baltimora "Tarzan Boy" I only listened the songs in my earphones. I was scared that the nuns would catch me the audio cassette and throw it away and punish me for listening that kin of music. So I would only listen them at night when everybody was sleeping. lol!! I kept that old stuff for 2 years! crazy!
Ok!  I really thought about writing this post many times but because I was so busy I could not do it. Even though I have few times for myself I decided to do it at last.
It is going to be more about the 90's because The 90's were the best years of my life. This post follows the previous one on purpose. It is the continuity of  "Good Memories" a post that I posted at the end of 2015 (the link here: http://patacolorcarnet.blogspot.com/2015/10/good-memories.html). It is the same idea just a little bit more detailed. In this post I will share the best things that I perfectly remember. There were colors and creativity and so much imagination in the 90's!
We had the best TV series. In those series we could watch the best super heroes or super humans with incredible talents. People would think the unthinkable and they made impossibilities possible. For example, the TV serie  Doogie Howser M.D, a physician teenager who was a genius. How could a teenager be a doctor? Like really? Yes, it happened in the 90's lol! Or Wonder Woman who would  always change her clothes in a hidden room somewhere and appeared from nowhere to save people. I don't know how many times we imitated at home that super woman lady.
We also had the best pets ever! These pets would always save human lives. I like dogs a lot! Actually I like pets or animals in general. There was so much love and an idea of humanity or helping and saving others. I give an example: There was that Australian TV serie named "Kelly" a German shepherd that was trained to save people's lives. Skippy! A smart kangaroo that would always save people as well.  How can a kangaroo save people's lives? Well once again it happened in the 90's!
It was the years when we could watch a TV serie of kids controlling an entire city and singing the Boom boom cha cha song while flying in a hot air balloon! In the 90's kids were portrayed as little genius on TV. In the 90's we had the TV series such as Seinfeld, 21 Jump Street, Friends, The Cosby Show, MacGyver, Dallas, Little House on the Prairie, Family Matters, Happy Days...

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We also had the TV show Martin, The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, Saved by the Bell and many others. About Saved by the Bell, I recall that whenever we had a boring teacher or a mean one, once the bell was ringing, some classmates would say: "Saved by the bell Let's get out of here!" especially when we had a difficult exercise to do in class. Then the teacher would starred at them and shake his/her head to express how disappointed he/she was by such behavior. The rest of the class would be laughing.

In the 90's we had so many good movies: The Silence of the Lambs, Forrest Gump, Braveheart, Pretty Woman, Jurassic Park, Seven, Titanic, Clueless and many others. I really like Braveheart with Mel Gibson, this movie was so interesting!

Bad Boys so watcha gonna do?

 In the 90's we had this movement that I will personally name the Music Mania why? Because I recall that it was the crazy years and people would be walking with a radio on their shoulder playing loud music in the street. The hair was like punk style or something like that.

The old school!

Sometimes people would dress colorful clothes but the style was special for women. Especially the young women. I will talk more about the 90's style later below. We would have the Walkman that portable audio cassette. That was such a brilliant idea and creation. Do you remember? That was so cool at that time! Usually when we traveled we would have our Walkman and many audio cassettes with us.  Then, later we had the CD's portable. So we went from the radio on the shoulder to portable music items. Yes! That was the cool old school!

We had the most beautiful Top models of that time. I admired them so much and I still do. They looked great, beautiful and smiling. They look sexy charming ladies. They marked their times. These Top models were: Naomi Campbell, Claudia Schiffer, Cindy Crawford. Also Linda Evangelista, Eva Herzigova, Elle Mc Pherson, Kate Moss and many others. Of course, I could not forget their names!  I like the way they rocked the catwalk on the runway. They were so elegant! I was such a fan!

Eva Herzigova, Naomi Campbell and Claudia Schiffer

 Now can you tell who is who on the picture below?

Naomi campbell, Stephanie Seymour, Christy Turlington, Linda Evangelista and Cindy Crawford

In the 90's when it was boring at home you wore your leggings and if you had friends living in your neighborhood you call them for an afternoon bicycle race. When your bicycle was going too fast and you enjoy the moment you put the legs up in the air and you shout:" yepeee!!!!" Then,  someone would say be careful there and maybe you fall on the grass and you are all laughing or maybe you stop it right before the  little accident happen. That's the kind of crazy and funny things we liked to do back in the 90's  especially during the Summer. Yay!!!!

I like that picture so much! It just reminds me of the good times. This picture is from a Facebook page "Do It in Paris" or "Little Paris."

  Backstreet Boys "I Want It That Way" one of my favorite songs of the group.

Yeah!!! Millenium!!!! I was so in love with that entire album .

Yes, we had the coolest boys and girls bands in the 90's. The candy crush guys type...You know what I mean. The Backstreet Boys were among my favorites. In the band, I was in love with Howie Dorough and Kevin Richardson the tall guy with dark hair awwww...I found them sexy and charming lol! (wink). Yes that was teen dream and that was many years ago.
Remember the Spice Girls (I have to admit I have never been a fan of the Spice Girls. To me it was too much and I could not focus on their style and music at all. I was really lost when many girls liked them a lot. I was more into the group All Saints. Personally I liked the All Saints better.)

Natalie Imbruglia "Torn".
I liked her style in the song. That was maybe because it was my mood that I had back in the days. I didn't care much about my style or something like that because I thought that a person was more about his/her personality and values (That was what my parent wanted me to understand)
When I went back to my country I felt so disconnected with the teenagers' way to see life. As I was trying to adapt to that lost "world" according to me (because to them, appearance prevailed over values and personality) at that time my mum was still braiding my hair like in primary school style and people were making fun of my hair at school and it broke my heart so much. I was misunderstood...
They didn't understand how much it meant to me to have my mum doing my hair because I was away from her for years and this reconnection meant the world to me. I could not handle that lost "world" with bullies and peer pressure anymore. I didn't want to change my value, I  then asked my dad to leave the country once again. It really broke my heart to make that decision and to leave my family once again. It was heavy in my heart and my mother never understood my decision either.
Well, I liked that song so much and I liked the way she danced at the end of the video. Yes at some point you don't care anymore about how people think about you. Just because you will never be good enough for them no matter what you do. There will never be enough reasons to change their mind in that regard so...live your life, forget about them and be happy.

The other one was from a "mysterious" radio channel that we could find sometimes. I say sometimes because that radio channel was disappearing from the frequencies and it had so many cool songs in the 90's. We didn't know from where that channel was coming from but when it disappeared from our radio we (my young sister and I) would be disappointed because the animator was always saying "New music tomorrow!" then we would  rush every night to listen to his radio show and try to catch the channel and then sometimes nothing in the frequencies.  We would be passing from being happy to being disappointed depending on the days. I first found that channel accidentally. So that song was also one of our favorite ones from that radio channel

Lutricia Mc Neal "Someone Loves You Honey".

 We didn't speak English much so when she said the word honey in her song, we were thinking about the honey to eat. Then, I would ask to my young sister: "How can she says that someone loves you honey? Does she love to eat honey? My sister would be like:"...well...maybe." The lyrics were about a person but I could not make the straight correlation between the word honey to eat and the word honey for love. I recall that sometimes I would have a bottle of honey on my hands for breakfast and sing the song since I didn't understand why she used that word lol! Until I learned that English speakers use the word honey to also call someone with affection.

Then, in the 90's we had the special fashion. What is really interesting is the fact that the different looks of the 90's are back! Meaning that you can still wear those by recreating them as much as you want and adapting them according to your taste. I can't get enough of the style that we had during the 90's. Hum! Let's see if I can recall some of them but www.popsugar.com will help me to refresh my memories. Ladies are you ready to look back at the 90's fashion? Ok! let's start then!

1/ The Destroyed Jeans, the High Waist Jeans and the Boyfriend Jeans.
They are so back in the trend and they are so cool! You can wear them in different ways. Back in the days I remember that the destroyed jeans was a little bit seen like rebellious style especially when  people added drops of bleach on them to make it look wild and then they wear with it a leather jacket to ...You know... like George Michael's look back in the days. But now many women make this pair of jeans looks more classic.

The high waist pair of jeans is timeless! It always makes me think about the ladies pin up

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2/The Choker Necklace & The Pacifiers : I like them so much! I like the ones that I bought at Aldo last year. Three different types of chocker necklaces

A chocker necklace with a pendant sun

or this one

 The black necklace choker.

  Do you recall when the girls band were wearing that necklace and many girls started to wear those as well.
The Pacifiers
lol!!! No comment! But we liked them so much right? That was cool!

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3/ The Black Lipsticks, The Black Nails.

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I remember people called it the Gothic style back in the days. I don't know the words used here in the US. They would usually added some type of jewelry or skeleton necklace etc. That was the time of the Grunge style I think.

4/ The Silver Lipstick and Silver Eye Shadow

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O Gosh! I loved it so much! The silver lipstick and silver eyes shadow in our make up collection were for me refreshing. We would like to wear some nice silver jewelry as well, hoop earrings  and it was perfect especially for us living in the countries where the sun shines! #theTropics. You would have a nice scarf wrapped on your head in lemon yellow color or pink or blue turquoise or neon

5/ The Overalls:

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It was cool to wear the overalls. They were in jeans or simple fabrics. It made you look like the friendly girl or "le garcon manqué"! the overalls were in many colors, prints or just simply plain colors. We liked to put our Walkman inside the pocket. Some bank notes, coins to buy fun stuffs or goodies during a nice afternoon with friends. We would keep some shells when walking at the beach. We could sometimes keep some good candies in the pocket or a cute guy's phone number who happened to talk to you! (wink)  We also like to have a crop top under the overalls and sometimes we would leave the up part falling in front.

6/ The Bandana Scarf:

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Woohoo! The Bandana scarf yes! I recall the Bandana the way we liked to wear it back in the days. We liked to buy all the different colors because we could change the color according to the mood and the style. We liked to tie them on our head, or like a false scarf around our neck but also on our wrist to play the cool girl. It was so original when we had the long braids and we had a little bit of style like the girls bands. We liked the bandana for our afternoon activities like riding the bikes with friends going for a picnic at the park or at the beach.

7/ The Beret:
 Do you remember the beret?!  I like the one that Janet Jackson had in the movie Poetic Justice.

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Also the one that Dionne had in Clueless. With her braids it gives the nice ethnic look! I remember we liked to buy those with different colors and styles like those with glitter or strass on it or those that were simple design
 Many girls were into these berets back in the days and we still like them right?

 8/ The Jeans:

Do you recall the short jeans with a shirt around your waist? That was so 90's look! You would paired them  with some boots or sandals for a nice afternoon! Usually people would go for the plaid shirts and yes we all did that! 

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 We can even adapt it in a more classy way like the lady of the picture below she has nice pair of destroyed jeans  (from www.pinterest.com)

10/ The Sneakers!!!
 Hello! Ladies. Do not forget the sneakers. They were so comfortable! Adapted for casual occasions and afternoon parties or going to the movies! We still like them.

11/ The Gingham and Plaid Shirts/ Plaid Skirts:
I like those shirts with the different colors and prints. They are so back on track and always cool! They are definitely timeless! I like the fabrics!

from French brand "Lulu Castagnette"

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 The plaid skirts! Who didn't like them?

They were so classic and cool!

Movie "Clueless"

12/ The Backpack.
 Don't forget the girly backpack of the days. We were so much into those little cute backpacks. They are so back in the current trend! They were so viral in the market that every girls wanted to have them.

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13/The Waist Bags/Pack.

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They were really cool for Summer! They were easy to put around your waist. They had different shapes. We would put anything quickly and keep it safe. There were different styles from the most classic to the casual ones. You could use it for a walk in the afternoon, riding bicycle, or at the beach party. Or you could simply keep some nice little notes of your sweet lover (wink/ lol!!! Girls things that was so back in the days!)
14/The Timberland Women Boots:
The timberland boots were picked in different colors

15/ The 90's Sunglasses:

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The  round reflective sunglasses. I used to call them Whoopi Goldberg' sunglasses because  I first saw them with her on pictures and movie. And yes they are so back on the market! I love them!

16/ Flashy Accessories/ Hoop Earrings

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That was so 90's! We love them especially under the tropics! Like I said earlier we had so many colors on us in the 90's

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17/ The electric Blue Nails and Lipstick
Do you remember the Electric Blue Fever (That's how I call it) lol! I like the blue. I like it in clothings but also in mascara and nails. Some ladies did wear it on their lips.

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18/ The Shoes Baby-Doll
Last on my list the shoes baby doll or stilettos dolls. I recall that some girls would put them with some socks and it was another nice look. I guess I will get them again. They are so classic.

Ok! I guess I said everything. That was my 90's post . I know it was long but I like the idea. I hope you like it!
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Memories of the good 90's. In the 90's we had so much fun! Bye guys!!

A group that I have always liked. One of the best. Missing TLC #Lefteye

TLC No Scrubs"

Happiness is A Choice

Happiness is indeed a choice!

I like this picture a yellow flower with a yellow butterfly. Yellow a color of sun, happiness

I decided to stay happy even though things are not always perfect. Sitting in my room waiting to watch the Oscars in few hours (I decided to watch it anyway because I can't spend a year without watching the Oscars. I agree with some complaints about the nomination choices etc but I still can't sit here and not be watching the ceremony tonight.) I wanted to write something in my blog as I always do. People who really know me can never be surprised. Somebody after reading my blog once told me it has to be a passion that makes you do that. I guess it is and he might be right. This is not new I have always liked writing things about me, my life my activities my interests since my young age. I always have something to say or to share. This is all about my Carnet de Voyage. Simple as it is. The "Carnet" (diary) of my life, my adventures and make people smile.
Mmmbop! As I am listening to that song, I suddenly remember many funny memories. Gosh! I have always something to say lol!!
When the band was out and was featured in magazines to be honest I was not interested at all because that was not the type of boy bands that I liked maybe many girls as well (teen age). Girls usually liked the guys who had muscles all over the body, sexy looking, gorgeous candy crush, with fiery eyes. Dancing like ...OK you know what I am talking about and all the girls would be screaming like:"yeah!!!!! They are the best! They are so cute!!" Singing their songs etc. So when the Hanson went out I was not interested at all. They were so different.  I had my classmate who one day had their songs in her portable CD player (at that time we didn't have youtube.com, mp3 players etc) as she was listening to them in her earphones, I asked her:" what are you listening to?"
she told me: "Mmmbop!"
I was like:"What? What is Mmmbop!?"
 then she responded "The Hanson!!!"
Then I was kind of disappointed "Really the Hanson? o gosh! girl there are better boy bands to listen to. "
 Actually I didn't even try to listen to it a little bit  because I thought that they were not sexy enough from my teenage eyes (laugh)
Then, maybe few days later as I was doing my homework at home Mmmbop was played on TV in a Music TV show. But because I was in my room I didn't know who was singing but  I liked the song right away. The style was cool! When I went to watch who were the singers I found out that they were the Hanson. Guess what? I was confused I was like o wow! They sing very well I didn't know that and I liked Mmmbop it is a nice song! Very original. I guess we were more concentrated on the look than the talent itself.

When you watch the video  you see them flying with their roller skates (something like that)as if it was easy to do. I like it and it really amuses me because I recall things that we used to do when we were young. Maybe stupid things... I don't know... ok this is the story: I recall I went to visit a family friend an afternoon and the girls had some fast roller skates like the ones they have in the video. The youngest was actually good like them. I was sitting on the playground and having fun looking at the girls playing and flying lol! then one of them came to me and she proposed me to try a little bit. I never did that before and instead of saying no I said:" yes! yes! I want to try it too!"
 She helped me putting them on my feet then,  she held me by the arm as I was starting to do do slow motions.I suddenly realized that she then left me go on my own I got scared and  something happened: I found myself face on the ground. I fell and to be honest I had such a huge pain on my head after the accident. I was like ouch! I fainted as if nothing happened but as I was trying to get back on my feet I forgot that I didn't have control of the rollers I fell again the second time but on my bottom. Guys it was painful!!!

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The girls rushed to grab and help me. The youngest took out the skates. They helped me walking. OMG my head and my body were in pain. Then, they asked me if I was fine I simply told them :"O yes! I am fine! Perfect!" No I was not fine! I even felt something wrong happened in my mouth. So when I rushed to the restroom I found out that I was bleeding from the nose and the mouth. I tried my best to stop the hemorrhage. I didn't want them to know I remained like an hour there and put stuff on my nose etc. When I went out I asked to take a taxi to go back home. Once at home, lol! I used ice and anything to relieve my pain. That was such a stupid adventure. I never tried roller skates again.

It's like the girl in my neighborhood who was trying to teach us how to swim. Guess where she happened to choose the place to learn how to swim? on the ground in the grass. On the grass really?? yes! And she told us: " Don't worry guys it's not difficult act as if you were some frogs. Observe carefully the frog and you will swim well. Swimming is easy just flex your knees and push them blah blah blah..." That's what I did! I went to carefully observe frogs and imitated what she told us to do. The day when we went to the swimming pool of the club, I tried to apply her "stupid" lessons and guess what happened to me? I almost drown to death in the swimming pool. As I was struggling to breathe and to live I tried to call for help the group was peacefully eating their sandwiches and only until one realized that I was in big trouble it was too late because I went back to the ground and I don't even know how. The other thing was there people around and I didn't understand how in the world nobody saw or noticed that I was struggling for my life. I was so upset toward human kind and disappointed angry about those "friends." So, I took my stuffs and left the swimming club and I didn't talk to them for weeks. The only thing I could tell them was:" You watched me almost dying and you did nothing!" The girl never explained to us some facts about water. She was also young she didn't know much to later find out that she didn't swim at all! She learned how to swim later at school and when her father paid private swimming classes. See? Even though I felt like something was fishy, I just wonder how in the world I followed and believed what she said. The sad part of the story is the fact that I never tried again to swim until today.

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I hope to do it someday in order to overcome this fear because of what happened and swimming is good for the body. Anyway! That's life! We learn from these experiences.
Well ,at the end I just want to say that the Hanson were original in their style of music. I am no more interested in guys with muscles everywhere lol! the #Terminator type. That was when we were young. The ideal man should have muscles for most of the girls. You knew you have a bodyguard. That was funny! Now today we  know that it's more about what the person has to offer or to give. I mean by that love, attention, care, security.... But wait! we do not say no to the muscles though ha! ha! ha! Muscles are good! (I am just joking a little bit)

I have been busy this month. I try to balance everything at the same time: Obligation and passion. Like I just said I try. I still write in my other website.
Few weeks ago I went to Grand Prairie to see the Village of traders. However, the weather was not good that day. You will see it in the pictures.

 

I went to Fort Worth Botanical Garden at the Japanese garden. I liked the place. That was such a nice garden! It was like heaven on earth! You will like Dallas if you come here someday. I shared the pictures in the website as well: 

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Last time I missed some interesting events because I could not be everywhere at the same time. I am not from the Marvel even f I wish I could be one f them lol! So no it's impossible. However, I went to Fort Worth Botanical Garden and I really liked the experience! That place is amazingly wonderful! It's like heaven on earth

@ Fort Worth Botanical Garden

This weekend  I went to Klyde Warren Park in Dallas since a friend of mine invited me to go listening to Marco Rubio' speech. I mean people are really motivated lol! The same week on Monday Mr. Clinton was here in Dallas,  I registered for a place at the event but I could not make it. Unfortunately I could not attend it at all. Actually I was just curious to listen to what he wanted to say on behalf of his wife.  And now who is going to be here next? I hope not Mr. Trump. That man and his ideas scare me... Ok! I don't do politics and I think Politics should be left to politicians. However, if I have a favorite candidate or even if the candidate is not my favorite I will still try to listen to what he/she says because they have good ideas most of the times. They also have interesting plans and projects for the country. I just try to follow and know what is going on in the recent news. Sometimes I can be interested but sometimes not at all! If I had a choice to make and if I was from here I would definitely choose Bernie Sanders (Don't look at me like that! This is my choice and my opinion) and yes I am a Bernie Sanders' supporter.

So back to my story, Klyde Park is a nice little park in town and people like to go there to relax and eat. I also took some pictures there. The weather was wonderful!

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Ladies are you getting ready to tie the knot this year? You might want to read ideas about what to do for being a beautiful bride for that special day. I share with you some tips and you know all these interesting things to have. I like making people happy and I always want to share something that would put a smile on your face (wink) Ok! you will find many articles for the future bride to be in Style Equation magazine at www.stylequationmagazine.com

As for me I still learn how to take pictures. I guess that was all for today. I am getting ready for the Oscars in few minutes now.  Let's cross  our fingers for Leonardo DiCaprio this year. he deserves the Oscar. I mean The Revenant is a good movie. did you watch it?
 I hope to write soon and I also wanted to leave a message to you tonight: "Choose to be happy!"

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  And in my poetic mood as usual, I conclude this post with that beautiful song of Celine Dion. I love the lyrics! You know how I like this singer. I wish she could have sung with some great African singers like Angelique Kidjo who recently got her third Grammy Awards but ...it does not look like it will happen...They have both nice voices!
"Miles to Go" is from one of my favorite albums of Celine Dion. I love and love this song!
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"Miles to Go" Celine Dion

About Marriage

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Wow! I just learned that my brother welcomed a new baby in the family. A nice and healthy baby boy who was born today the day of Valentine's there. lol! How cute is it?!
I want to wish you Happy Valentine's day and I hope you are going to make it a good and nice moment. Valentine's is for everybody. Lover to lover, parent to their children as long as we show love and care to the ones we love. Last year I wrote some suggestions about what to do and this year I just want to talk about something more different but still related to the idea of Valentine's.
Few weeks ago I was asked to write three articles for brides in general since people are getting ready to celebrate their weddings these coming months. You will certainly receive some invitation cards or maybe you will be inviting friends and family for that special day. After writing about all  the details and suggestions for the brides, I realized how much time and energy people spend to make it a good day and I really like it! However, I noticed that few people actually take times to know what marriage is really. I know some will not be happy but that's ok because we have all our opinions.

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Not being judgmental but I think that we should take more time to know what to expect and what is our role once married. To me the ceremony is so exciting and beautiful. It is the glam, the glitz and so forth but marriage is another world. Marriage is definitely not a fairy tale. It is more than that.
I am sometimes surprised or maybe...shocked when people decide to break up after such preparations and engagement. I didn't understand at all but at the end my thought is we should probably learn from our mistakes or our friends or family members failure to remain together instead of criticizing them. The question will be what went wrong? why did that situation or break up happen?
I myself assisted friends who have been in such situation and it made me think a lot about that. It even made me feel like I should not rush into relationship at all. I then started to read books about an author who has a successful marriage, I even went to some seminars and listen to testimonies as well. You know what? At the end, I realized that marriage is for people who are well prepared and emotionally matured. (I will tell you why later) I also understand that marriage is for responsible people and that loving somebody is a decision in a sense that "no matter what we are going through we are going to make it and stay together " (I insist that I am not talking about domestic violence or lack of respect for his/her partner because when it happens there is no way to stay in such environment)

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When I say people who are mature and responsible , I mean by that people who are wise and take decisions that should not affect the couple/family. Wisdom has nothing to do with age. I am so convinced about that. I have seen people who are much older than me but acting like...Well you know... So it is just a state of mind in my view. I talk about being mature when people know when to forgive and move on after an argument. Some people like to bring up the past arguments or issues over and over again (Guess what? I am not giving advice to anyone, I do not pretend knowing more than anyone else. Yes, I have never been into a real relationship maybe not one to be honest but I have observed couples and sometimes people asked me in some difficult time what they should do? In that case I use my commonsense and compassion. In that case, I do not give right or wrong to any of them I just try to be "diplomatic" I judged none of them because obviously they needed help.)
The people that I listened to, told me that marriage is like an empty box. Do not expect to see something full in it already because you are the person who are going to fill up the box. The question is with what? Are you going to put anger? bitterness? unhappiness? Sadness? lack of trust? lack of forgiveness? or are you going to bring love, forgiveness, happiness, patience? Respect?  As long as you both are in a competition of making both happy I don't know if separation can occur...like really. Well, I don't think so. If one keep bringing the good things of his/her life and the other is not doing the same in turn or one is Always trying to do good to the other and the other does not really do the same or does not care,  I think at a certain point the "machine" will be exhausted then comes the disappointment...You cannot be a selfish person when you decide to be married because it's all about giving than receiving

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I like this song Beyonce "Halo"

 Today after listening to some testimonies, I sometimes wonder what's the point to be married and be unhappy? I even heard some male and female friends who said they were better happy when they were living a single life...Of course, I was surprised even shocked because I didn't understand how? In fact, they might be right because you could tell the differences. I read somewhere that "women's heart is an ocean of secrets" but I think men's heart is the same. Sometimes I talked to some couples who were completely different in their passion, habits and taste. I mean two complete different people and I was sometimes thrilled to know how did they ended up being together? (Not my business I know but ...It made me scratch my head)  Then, later you keep seeing them arguing often and then few years later again you hear that they both went into separated ways. No! I was not surprised to be honest but it made me think and question a lot about relationships and love in general because I still don't understand much. A French author named Jean de La Fontaine wrote that: "Everything about love is mystery" I think he is right.
From my point of view, (This is my true opinion after a certain time observing couples)  two different people cannot be together for a long time  Sorry I do not believe it all I saw it many times. I noticed that couples who are so much happy together and stay longer together have the same passion in general, they like to do most of the same things. They are like brother and sister at some point and even like best friends. When people are different it will be a lot of struggles to adjust with each other. I say it because I noticed it many times. Also, something that I dislike to hear when people say: "I cannot live without you or I am incomplete..." Like really? You were created a complete person. Before meeting me you were breathing the air and living since your mother's womb so...please! This is even scary to hear that because it means that I will have to be twice or do twice more to complete you? hmmm...

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So you know what? You don't get married because there is peer pressure, because parent tell you it is more than time, your partner is fed up to wait so long. You don't get married for social benefits, social status, because you are going to walk around just to show to people that you have a ring on your finger. You don't get married because you feel sorry for somebody or because that person helped you so much unless you really love him/her. You don't get married because someone trapped you with a baby or money, a story or whatever it is. You don't get married because you are fed up to be alone or lonely. Or because you think you can change someone. No we can't change somebody's habits. You get used to them or not because people do not change
If you cannot make a sacrifice of what you like to do then maybe you should be thinking twice before walking down the aisle. You are not going to get married because it is the trend, because all your friends are married or are getting married now and you don't want to be the "Last of the Mohicans"(We used to say that back in the days.) Because when you look at the calendar you feel like you are getting older than last year...maybe. You don't get married because you just want someone to make you happy (#selfish).

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 Before getting married you need to know the person. Before getting married you need to test that person. How she/ he reacts when he/she is angry. What is his/her real personality. In fact, you get married because you made a decision to remain there through the best and the difficult times. Two is better than one right? You get married because you made the decision to make someone else happy. You get married because you decided to love someone period! You get married because you understand your role in the relationship/couple. You get married because you both share the same vision. I mean when two people have different visions they cannot be together because there comes division in the couple. Happy couple is same vision You are getting married because you know how to treat your partner with respect and care even when you are not happy about what he/she did in front of people or at home. There is always a way to talk to him/her.

After witnessing all of this and reading and listening to advice, I decided to not rush at all but to live a happy single life for the moment. Trust me a happy single person will make a happy partner  (Hi 5!) I wish that many single people feel the same. There is nothing wrong to not being married now. Take your time and be happy with those who are happy. Celebrate with them their happy life as couples because they would probably do the same to you (They don't have to). Since I decided to push away that pressure of getting married because of my age, I feel good in my heart and more positive. You have less stress. It will definitely happen someday and I know it will happen to you too. I hope this long post will help somebody tonight. I didn't intend to write that long but it just came like a waterfall lol!! I am not looking to scare people but just want to be realistic. You are free to drop any comments.

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Once again happy Valentine's to all the lovers and to parents and their children.
This is a special something to mothers starting by my own. My mommy darling. I wish I could be with her and hug her with a present but...I am too far. So, sweet mommies this is a song for you and for your little sweethearts. I share it with you with a lot of love. I love that song and I like the artist and she sings in French Creole. After many years that song still puts a smile on my face!
The weather was beautiful as you can see we had a very nice sun! Feeling like in the tropics ha!ha!ha!

# Creole ambiance #Tropical ambiance #Zouk retro # Love # Sun Fresh #Breeze #Nature #Water #Zouk Love #French Creole #Happy Valentine's Day!!

(Sorry I was about to burst in laugh because of my neighbor...He was starring at me probably wondering what I was doing. Lol!! I was enjoying the sun and the air!)
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Listening to Joelle Ursull "Ti Bebe"(meaning "Little Baby")

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