Happiness is A Choice

Happiness is indeed a choice!

I like this picture a yellow flower with a yellow butterfly. Yellow a color of sun, happiness

I decided to stay happy even though things are not always perfect. Sitting in my room waiting to watch the Oscars in few hours (I decided to watch it anyway because I can't spend a year without watching the Oscars. I agree with some complaints about the nomination choices etc but I still can't sit here and not be watching the ceremony tonight.) I wanted to write something in my blog as I always do. People who really know me can never be surprised. Somebody after reading my blog once told me it has to be a passion that makes you do that. I guess it is and he might be right. This is not new I have always liked writing things about me, my life my activities my interests since my young age. I always have something to say or to share. This is all about my Carnet de Voyage. Simple as it is. The "Carnet" (diary) of my life, my adventures and make people smile.
Mmmbop! As I am listening to that song, I suddenly remember many funny memories. Gosh! I have always something to say lol!!
When the band was out and was featured in magazines to be honest I was not interested at all because that was not the type of boy bands that I liked maybe many girls as well (teen age). Girls usually liked the guys who had muscles all over the body, sexy looking, gorgeous candy crush, with fiery eyes. Dancing like ...OK you know what I am talking about and all the girls would be screaming like:"yeah!!!!! They are the best! They are so cute!!" Singing their songs etc. So when the Hanson went out I was not interested at all. They were so different.  I had my classmate who one day had their songs in her portable CD player (at that time we didn't have youtube.com, mp3 players etc) as she was listening to them in her earphones, I asked her:" what are you listening to?"
she told me: "Mmmbop!"
I was like:"What? What is Mmmbop!?"
 then she responded "The Hanson!!!"
Then I was kind of disappointed "Really the Hanson? o gosh! girl there are better boy bands to listen to. "
 Actually I didn't even try to listen to it a little bit  because I thought that they were not sexy enough from my teenage eyes (laugh)
Then, maybe few days later as I was doing my homework at home Mmmbop was played on TV in a Music TV show. But because I was in my room I didn't know who was singing but  I liked the song right away. The style was cool! When I went to watch who were the singers I found out that they were the Hanson. Guess what? I was confused I was like o wow! They sing very well I didn't know that and I liked Mmmbop it is a nice song! Very original. I guess we were more concentrated on the look than the talent itself.

When you watch the video  you see them flying with their roller skates (something like that)as if it was easy to do. I like it and it really amuses me because I recall things that we used to do when we were young. Maybe stupid things... I don't know... ok this is the story: I recall I went to visit a family friend an afternoon and the girls had some fast roller skates like the ones they have in the video. The youngest was actually good like them. I was sitting on the playground and having fun looking at the girls playing and flying lol! then one of them came to me and she proposed me to try a little bit. I never did that before and instead of saying no I said:" yes! yes! I want to try it too!"
 She helped me putting them on my feet then,  she held me by the arm as I was starting to do do slow motions.I suddenly realized that she then left me go on my own I got scared and  something happened: I found myself face on the ground. I fell and to be honest I had such a huge pain on my head after the accident. I was like ouch! I fainted as if nothing happened but as I was trying to get back on my feet I forgot that I didn't have control of the rollers I fell again the second time but on my bottom. Guys it was painful!!!

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The girls rushed to grab and help me. The youngest took out the skates. They helped me walking. OMG my head and my body were in pain. Then, they asked me if I was fine I simply told them :"O yes! I am fine! Perfect!" No I was not fine! I even felt something wrong happened in my mouth. So when I rushed to the restroom I found out that I was bleeding from the nose and the mouth. I tried my best to stop the hemorrhage. I didn't want them to know I remained like an hour there and put stuff on my nose etc. When I went out I asked to take a taxi to go back home. Once at home, lol! I used ice and anything to relieve my pain. That was such a stupid adventure. I never tried roller skates again.

It's like the girl in my neighborhood who was trying to teach us how to swim. Guess where she happened to choose the place to learn how to swim? on the ground in the grass. On the grass really?? yes! And she told us: " Don't worry guys it's not difficult act as if you were some frogs. Observe carefully the frog and you will swim well. Swimming is easy just flex your knees and push them blah blah blah..." That's what I did! I went to carefully observe frogs and imitated what she told us to do. The day when we went to the swimming pool of the club, I tried to apply her "stupid" lessons and guess what happened to me? I almost drown to death in the swimming pool. As I was struggling to breathe and to live I tried to call for help the group was peacefully eating their sandwiches and only until one realized that I was in big trouble it was too late because I went back to the ground and I don't even know how. The other thing was there people around and I didn't understand how in the world nobody saw or noticed that I was struggling for my life. I was so upset toward human kind and disappointed angry about those "friends." So, I took my stuffs and left the swimming club and I didn't talk to them for weeks. The only thing I could tell them was:" You watched me almost dying and you did nothing!" The girl never explained to us some facts about water. She was also young she didn't know much to later find out that she didn't swim at all! She learned how to swim later at school and when her father paid private swimming classes. See? Even though I felt like something was fishy, I just wonder how in the world I followed and believed what she said. The sad part of the story is the fact that I never tried again to swim until today.

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I hope to do it someday in order to overcome this fear because of what happened and swimming is good for the body. Anyway! That's life! We learn from these experiences.
Well ,at the end I just want to say that the Hanson were original in their style of music. I am no more interested in guys with muscles everywhere lol! the #Terminator type. That was when we were young. The ideal man should have muscles for most of the girls. You knew you have a bodyguard. That was funny! Now today we  know that it's more about what the person has to offer or to give. I mean by that love, attention, care, security.... But wait! we do not say no to the muscles though ha! ha! ha! Muscles are good! (I am just joking a little bit)

I have been busy this month. I try to balance everything at the same time: Obligation and passion. Like I just said I try. I still write in my other website.
Few weeks ago I went to Grand Prairie to see the Village of traders. However, the weather was not good that day. You will see it in the pictures.

 

I went to Fort Worth Botanical Garden at the Japanese garden. I liked the place. That was such a nice garden! It was like heaven on earth! You will like Dallas if you come here someday. I shared the pictures in the website as well: 

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Last time I missed some interesting events because I could not be everywhere at the same time. I am not from the Marvel even f I wish I could be one f them lol! So no it's impossible. However, I went to Fort Worth Botanical Garden and I really liked the experience! That place is amazingly wonderful! It's like heaven on earth

@ Fort Worth Botanical Garden

This weekend  I went to Klyde Warren Park in Dallas since a friend of mine invited me to go listening to Marco Rubio' speech. I mean people are really motivated lol! The same week on Monday Mr. Clinton was here in Dallas,  I registered for a place at the event but I could not make it. Unfortunately I could not attend it at all. Actually I was just curious to listen to what he wanted to say on behalf of his wife.  And now who is going to be here next? I hope not Mr. Trump. That man and his ideas scare me... Ok! I don't do politics and I think Politics should be left to politicians. However, if I have a favorite candidate or even if the candidate is not my favorite I will still try to listen to what he/she says because they have good ideas most of the times. They also have interesting plans and projects for the country. I just try to follow and know what is going on in the recent news. Sometimes I can be interested but sometimes not at all! If I had a choice to make and if I was from here I would definitely choose Bernie Sanders (Don't look at me like that! This is my choice and my opinion) and yes I am a Bernie Sanders' supporter.

So back to my story, Klyde Park is a nice little park in town and people like to go there to relax and eat. I also took some pictures there. The weather was wonderful!

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Ladies are you getting ready to tie the knot this year? You might want to read ideas about what to do for being a beautiful bride for that special day. I share with you some tips and you know all these interesting things to have. I like making people happy and I always want to share something that would put a smile on your face (wink) Ok! you will find many articles for the future bride to be in Style Equation magazine at www.stylequationmagazine.com

As for me I still learn how to take pictures. I guess that was all for today. I am getting ready for the Oscars in few minutes now.  Let's cross  our fingers for Leonardo DiCaprio this year. he deserves the Oscar. I mean The Revenant is a good movie. did you watch it?
 I hope to write soon and I also wanted to leave a message to you tonight: "Choose to be happy!"

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  And in my poetic mood as usual, I conclude this post with that beautiful song of Celine Dion. I love the lyrics! You know how I like this singer. I wish she could have sung with some great African singers like Angelique Kidjo who recently got her third Grammy Awards but ...it does not look like it will happen...They have both nice voices!
"Miles to Go" is from one of my favorite albums of Celine Dion. I love and love this song!
Bye! I send you love from Dallas!
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"Miles to Go" Celine Dion

About Marriage

Taken just for you!

Wow! I just learned that my brother welcomed a new baby in the family. A nice and healthy baby boy who was born today the day of Valentine's there. lol! How cute is it?!
I want to wish you Happy Valentine's day and I hope you are going to make it a good and nice moment. Valentine's is for everybody. Lover to lover, parent to their children as long as we show love and care to the ones we love. Last year I wrote some suggestions about what to do and this year I just want to talk about something more different but still related to the idea of Valentine's.
Few weeks ago I was asked to write three articles for brides in general since people are getting ready to celebrate their weddings these coming months. You will certainly receive some invitation cards or maybe you will be inviting friends and family for that special day. After writing about all  the details and suggestions for the brides, I realized how much time and energy people spend to make it a good day and I really like it! However, I noticed that few people actually take times to know what marriage is really. I know some will not be happy but that's ok because we have all our opinions.

I took that picture for you guys!! What do you think?

Not being judgmental but I think that we should take more time to know what to expect and what is our role once married. To me the ceremony is so exciting and beautiful. It is the glam, the glitz and so forth but marriage is another world. Marriage is definitely not a fairy tale. It is more than that.
I am sometimes surprised or maybe...shocked when people decide to break up after such preparations and engagement. I didn't understand at all but at the end my thought is we should probably learn from our mistakes or our friends or family members failure to remain together instead of criticizing them. The question will be what went wrong? why did that situation or break up happen?
I myself assisted friends who have been in such situation and it made me think a lot about that. It even made me feel like I should not rush into relationship at all. I then started to read books about an author who has a successful marriage, I even went to some seminars and listen to testimonies as well. You know what? At the end, I realized that marriage is for people who are well prepared and emotionally matured. (I will tell you why later) I also understand that marriage is for responsible people and that loving somebody is a decision in a sense that "no matter what we are going through we are going to make it and stay together " (I insist that I am not talking about domestic violence or lack of respect for his/her partner because when it happens there is no way to stay in such environment)

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When I say people who are mature and responsible , I mean by that people who are wise and take decisions that should not affect the couple/family. Wisdom has nothing to do with age. I am so convinced about that. I have seen people who are much older than me but acting like...Well you know... So it is just a state of mind in my view. I talk about being mature when people know when to forgive and move on after an argument. Some people like to bring up the past arguments or issues over and over again (Guess what? I am not giving advice to anyone, I do not pretend knowing more than anyone else. Yes, I have never been into a real relationship maybe not one to be honest but I have observed couples and sometimes people asked me in some difficult time what they should do? In that case I use my commonsense and compassion. In that case, I do not give right or wrong to any of them I just try to be "diplomatic" I judged none of them because obviously they needed help.)
The people that I listened to, told me that marriage is like an empty box. Do not expect to see something full in it already because you are the person who are going to fill up the box. The question is with what? Are you going to put anger? bitterness? unhappiness? Sadness? lack of trust? lack of forgiveness? or are you going to bring love, forgiveness, happiness, patience? Respect?  As long as you both are in a competition of making both happy I don't know if separation can occur...like really. Well, I don't think so. If one keep bringing the good things of his/her life and the other is not doing the same in turn or one is Always trying to do good to the other and the other does not really do the same or does not care,  I think at a certain point the "machine" will be exhausted then comes the disappointment...You cannot be a selfish person when you decide to be married because it's all about giving than receiving

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I like this song Beyonce "Halo"

 Today after listening to some testimonies, I sometimes wonder what's the point to be married and be unhappy? I even heard some male and female friends who said they were better happy when they were living a single life...Of course, I was surprised even shocked because I didn't understand how? In fact, they might be right because you could tell the differences. I read somewhere that "women's heart is an ocean of secrets" but I think men's heart is the same. Sometimes I talked to some couples who were completely different in their passion, habits and taste. I mean two complete different people and I was sometimes thrilled to know how did they ended up being together? (Not my business I know but ...It made me scratch my head)  Then, later you keep seeing them arguing often and then few years later again you hear that they both went into separated ways. No! I was not surprised to be honest but it made me think and question a lot about relationships and love in general because I still don't understand much. A French author named Jean de La Fontaine wrote that: "Everything about love is mystery" I think he is right.
From my point of view, (This is my true opinion after a certain time observing couples)  two different people cannot be together for a long time  Sorry I do not believe it all I saw it many times. I noticed that couples who are so much happy together and stay longer together have the same passion in general, they like to do most of the same things. They are like brother and sister at some point and even like best friends. When people are different it will be a lot of struggles to adjust with each other. I say it because I noticed it many times. Also, something that I dislike to hear when people say: "I cannot live without you or I am incomplete..." Like really? You were created a complete person. Before meeting me you were breathing the air and living since your mother's womb so...please! This is even scary to hear that because it means that I will have to be twice or do twice more to complete you? hmmm...

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So you know what? You don't get married because there is peer pressure, because parent tell you it is more than time, your partner is fed up to wait so long. You don't get married for social benefits, social status, because you are going to walk around just to show to people that you have a ring on your finger. You don't get married because you feel sorry for somebody or because that person helped you so much unless you really love him/her. You don't get married because someone trapped you with a baby or money, a story or whatever it is. You don't get married because you are fed up to be alone or lonely. Or because you think you can change someone. No we can't change somebody's habits. You get used to them or not because people do not change
If you cannot make a sacrifice of what you like to do then maybe you should be thinking twice before walking down the aisle. You are not going to get married because it is the trend, because all your friends are married or are getting married now and you don't want to be the "Last of the Mohicans"(We used to say that back in the days.) Because when you look at the calendar you feel like you are getting older than last year...maybe. You don't get married because you just want someone to make you happy (#selfish).

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 Before getting married you need to know the person. Before getting married you need to test that person. How she/ he reacts when he/she is angry. What is his/her real personality. In fact, you get married because you made a decision to remain there through the best and the difficult times. Two is better than one right? You get married because you made the decision to make someone else happy. You get married because you decided to love someone period! You get married because you understand your role in the relationship/couple. You get married because you both share the same vision. I mean when two people have different visions they cannot be together because there comes division in the couple. Happy couple is same vision You are getting married because you know how to treat your partner with respect and care even when you are not happy about what he/she did in front of people or at home. There is always a way to talk to him/her.

After witnessing all of this and reading and listening to advice, I decided to not rush at all but to live a happy single life for the moment. Trust me a happy single person will make a happy partner  (Hi 5!) I wish that many single people feel the same. There is nothing wrong to not being married now. Take your time and be happy with those who are happy. Celebrate with them their happy life as couples because they would probably do the same to you (They don't have to). Since I decided to push away that pressure of getting married because of my age, I feel good in my heart and more positive. You have less stress. It will definitely happen someday and I know it will happen to you too. I hope this long post will help somebody tonight. I didn't intend to write that long but it just came like a waterfall lol!! I am not looking to scare people but just want to be realistic. You are free to drop any comments.

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Once again happy Valentine's to all the lovers and to parents and their children.
This is a special something to mothers starting by my own. My mommy darling. I wish I could be with her and hug her with a present but...I am too far. So, sweet mommies this is a song for you and for your little sweethearts. I share it with you with a lot of love. I love that song and I like the artist and she sings in French Creole. After many years that song still puts a smile on my face!
The weather was beautiful as you can see we had a very nice sun! Feeling like in the tropics ha!ha!ha!

# Creole ambiance #Tropical ambiance #Zouk retro # Love # Sun Fresh #Breeze #Nature #Water #Zouk Love #French Creole #Happy Valentine's Day!!

(Sorry I was about to burst in laugh because of my neighbor...He was starring at me probably wondering what I was doing. Lol!! I was enjoying the sun and the air!)
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Listening to Joelle Ursull "Ti Bebe"(meaning "Little Baby")

Ok! This is the complete video here: You will love it!

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